Press Release:DURHAM, NC.-Duke Hospital is hosting one of the biggest fighting matches ever staged in Durham NC. World Fighting Association welterweight champion Chi "slap cancer in the face" Brown will make his first title defense against the reputed loser Hodgkins "The weakest link" Lymphoma.
Tickets are free and will sell out fast! *Additional fees and/or service charges may apply.
Brown (38-1-0, 24 KOs), from Durham, NC, by way of Buffalo, NY., is a welterweight world champion, who found out just yesterday that he would be in this tremendous fight. He became the WFA champion when he beat several bullets that actually never hit him in 1997.
A series of unfortunate events followed in the late 90's when Chi was in car accident after car accident. He was also just recently jumped by several unknown assailants who left him needing several stitches. He still managed to maintain his title even after all of these events.
Brown will have his hands full again when he faces Hodgkins Lymphoma (1490-50-133,819, 18 KOs), from Whothehellknows, USA., a fighter who has had a rough time with tougher opponents as of late. When Mr. Brown was asked why he would go up against such a week opponent in Lymphoma, Chi simply stated... "Cause dudes has been a constant pain in my neck, and im through playing with him!"
"Brown vs Lymphoma... Bring It On" is being promoted by Duke fighting, Boycott BET Promotions, Warriors Fighting Promotions, and Don Chi Productions. The main event will be broadcast on MYSPACE CHAMPIONSHIP FIGHTING at least once a week until the fight is finished...
Sunday, January 14, 2007
Tuesday, January 2, 2007
STOP USING THE "N" WORD!
I am getting a Divorce from the word niggah & all things niggaish
The word Nigga has been stuck in my vocabulary since I was an early teen. I think I must hear, speak, or read the word about 20 times a day. Just recently its been made even more popular due to its use by several white comedians. The black community was outraged by Michael Richards gratuitous use of the word during one of his shows. I, on the other hand, was not fazed. One mans ignorance isn't something I'm willing to loose sleep over. But, even prior to this event, I had been re-evaluating my use of the word. You see, I strongly believe that in order to be respected, you must first be respectable, & respectful. You absolutely have to have respect for yourself, if you plan on getting respect from others. Since I believe that, then it is a must that I erase such a blatantly disrespectful word from my vocabulary. I mean, how can we expect other races not to call us nigger if we call ourselves niggah? No matter how you spell it, it is hypocritical to call yourself & your people the N word, but then get upset when people of other races do the same thing.
Now I have heard it argued that "we have taken a negative word & made it a positive..." My question to those people who would argue that point is... "How is the word now a positive word?" "Can you use the word to address someone and still sound respectful?" "Can you walk up to your attorney, judge, doctor, or even a store manager & call them a nigguh respectfully?" "How about someones mother or father or maybe a child?" No? Damn right the answer is no. See the term nigga has basically been used to describe a lazy, good for nothing, stupid, ignorant, animal, who is less than human, & who needs to be controlled.
If you still disagree with my analysis, then please, answer me this..... "What is the new positive & respectful definition of the word nigga?" Go on.... I know you will have to make one up..... The truth is that the word always was and always will be a disrespectful word. As a matter of fact, it has been said that calling a person any name other than their given name could be taken as a disrespect. I think that may be taking it a bit too far but its understandable. I can respect that rule when dealing with people I have just met, or in the workplace or a business setting. That rule works in those kinds of situations.
Now I know the word is very difficult to erase from everyday use, but for me, it must be done. I cannot continue to use it because it would make me a hypocrite. Again, for a person to use the word & then turn around & get upset at someone else for using it is hypocritical. Are you a hypocrite!? You have to decide which side of the fence you are on. If you have a problem with anyone outside of your race using the word, then you yourself should not be using it.
This is not the only problem facing our community. There are many other similar examples of hypocrisy, in our community, as well. But this is a great example of the hypocrisy that is running a muck in the black community. Some of us also like to get upset whenever a white person thinks of us as "out of control, criminal, ignorant, stupid, etc. But, we continue to embrace these ignorant, disrespectful, & criminal behaviors. Just like the word nigga, we seem to have adopted these traits that we once fought so hard to eliminate. It is so difficult for me to explain the shame that I feel when I go into a public place and see my people acting in such disgraceful & disrespectful ways.
I myself happen to be a man brought up in the hip hop era. I tend to dress in the hip hop styles. Sometimes I feel that people judge me based on my choice of dress. I see them look at me differently when I enter stores, they expect certain things from me. They expect me to speak and behave a certain way. Why? Because, obviously, negative thoughts and feelings have been attached to young black men who dress in this manner. It doesnt help that many of us tend to act as expected.... So I myself have made it my job to try and change the way people look at a brother who dresses in these types of clothes. I am trying to add a whole new perspective to it. I mean I know its a long shot, and i may end up just having to dress more grown up. After all, I am getting older and its not always kool to have your clothes fit 3 sizes larger then necessary.
So this is my letter on intent. I basically am ready to leave the word Nigger alone. This is it! I quit! I want a divorce! It was never meant for me or any of my people. It is only fitting of us if we decide that its the right size. And knowing what a niggah is all about, I know that it fits me about 3 sizes too large!
-ChiOhKEh
The word Nigga has been stuck in my vocabulary since I was an early teen. I think I must hear, speak, or read the word about 20 times a day. Just recently its been made even more popular due to its use by several white comedians. The black community was outraged by Michael Richards gratuitous use of the word during one of his shows. I, on the other hand, was not fazed. One mans ignorance isn't something I'm willing to loose sleep over. But, even prior to this event, I had been re-evaluating my use of the word. You see, I strongly believe that in order to be respected, you must first be respectable, & respectful. You absolutely have to have respect for yourself, if you plan on getting respect from others. Since I believe that, then it is a must that I erase such a blatantly disrespectful word from my vocabulary. I mean, how can we expect other races not to call us nigger if we call ourselves niggah? No matter how you spell it, it is hypocritical to call yourself & your people the N word, but then get upset when people of other races do the same thing.
Now I have heard it argued that "we have taken a negative word & made it a positive..." My question to those people who would argue that point is... "How is the word now a positive word?" "Can you use the word to address someone and still sound respectful?" "Can you walk up to your attorney, judge, doctor, or even a store manager & call them a nigguh respectfully?" "How about someones mother or father or maybe a child?" No? Damn right the answer is no. See the term nigga has basically been used to describe a lazy, good for nothing, stupid, ignorant, animal, who is less than human, & who needs to be controlled.
If you still disagree with my analysis, then please, answer me this..... "What is the new positive & respectful definition of the word nigga?" Go on.... I know you will have to make one up..... The truth is that the word always was and always will be a disrespectful word. As a matter of fact, it has been said that calling a person any name other than their given name could be taken as a disrespect. I think that may be taking it a bit too far but its understandable. I can respect that rule when dealing with people I have just met, or in the workplace or a business setting. That rule works in those kinds of situations.
Now I know the word is very difficult to erase from everyday use, but for me, it must be done. I cannot continue to use it because it would make me a hypocrite. Again, for a person to use the word & then turn around & get upset at someone else for using it is hypocritical. Are you a hypocrite!? You have to decide which side of the fence you are on. If you have a problem with anyone outside of your race using the word, then you yourself should not be using it.
This is not the only problem facing our community. There are many other similar examples of hypocrisy, in our community, as well. But this is a great example of the hypocrisy that is running a muck in the black community. Some of us also like to get upset whenever a white person thinks of us as "out of control, criminal, ignorant, stupid, etc. But, we continue to embrace these ignorant, disrespectful, & criminal behaviors. Just like the word nigga, we seem to have adopted these traits that we once fought so hard to eliminate. It is so difficult for me to explain the shame that I feel when I go into a public place and see my people acting in such disgraceful & disrespectful ways.
I myself happen to be a man brought up in the hip hop era. I tend to dress in the hip hop styles. Sometimes I feel that people judge me based on my choice of dress. I see them look at me differently when I enter stores, they expect certain things from me. They expect me to speak and behave a certain way. Why? Because, obviously, negative thoughts and feelings have been attached to young black men who dress in this manner. It doesnt help that many of us tend to act as expected.... So I myself have made it my job to try and change the way people look at a brother who dresses in these types of clothes. I am trying to add a whole new perspective to it. I mean I know its a long shot, and i may end up just having to dress more grown up. After all, I am getting older and its not always kool to have your clothes fit 3 sizes larger then necessary.
So this is my letter on intent. I basically am ready to leave the word Nigger alone. This is it! I quit! I want a divorce! It was never meant for me or any of my people. It is only fitting of us if we decide that its the right size. And knowing what a niggah is all about, I know that it fits me about 3 sizes too large!
-ChiOhKEh
Tough Guys
Tough guys
I've been thinking about the fact there seems to be a continuous stream of tough guys appearing in the black community. Thugs, gangstas, hoodlums, guerrillas, bloods, & crips... All of these guys seem to be under the assumption that, that is what black men are supposed to be. The thing is... I used to, & still do, know a lot of these so called tough guys. Many of whom weren't so tough until certain changes came in the media. They were just regular guys until Dre & snoop hit BET's Rap City. But, all of that aside.... The reason I am taking the time to write this is because I feel that a lot of these guys need our help. They need to hear from us and not really lectured but they do need to know the truth. The truth is that we don't have to be any of those things. When we hear these brothers saying that they had to turn to selling drugs to feed their families, tell them them "No, you didnt".... You could have gotten a job. You could have went to college. You could have waited to start a family, instead of having one before you were ready to provide for them.
You had a choice to do whatever you wanted to do, and your choice was to become a criminal. You made a decision. You can also chose to step away from that lifestyle before you lose the option to leave. The truth is that if we really love our brothers we need to let them know that they are destroying our communties. We cannot expect to be respected by others until we respect ourselves.....
Why if it seems that you are being held down by "the man", you so called tough guys aren't fighting this so called "man", instead of killing your own people?
I've been thinking about the fact there seems to be a continuous stream of tough guys appearing in the black community. Thugs, gangstas, hoodlums, guerrillas, bloods, & crips... All of these guys seem to be under the assumption that, that is what black men are supposed to be. The thing is... I used to, & still do, know a lot of these so called tough guys. Many of whom weren't so tough until certain changes came in the media. They were just regular guys until Dre & snoop hit BET's Rap City. But, all of that aside.... The reason I am taking the time to write this is because I feel that a lot of these guys need our help. They need to hear from us and not really lectured but they do need to know the truth. The truth is that we don't have to be any of those things. When we hear these brothers saying that they had to turn to selling drugs to feed their families, tell them them "No, you didnt".... You could have gotten a job. You could have went to college. You could have waited to start a family, instead of having one before you were ready to provide for them.
You had a choice to do whatever you wanted to do, and your choice was to become a criminal. You made a decision. You can also chose to step away from that lifestyle before you lose the option to leave. The truth is that if we really love our brothers we need to let them know that they are destroying our communties. We cannot expect to be respected by others until we respect ourselves.....
Why if it seems that you are being held down by "the man", you so called tough guys aren't fighting this so called "man", instead of killing your own people?
Monday, December 18, 2006
Good Baby Daddy: "You are such a good father to your son!"
Its been 3 years some months and some days since my little bundle of joy was born. Ever since that day my life has seemed to have started all over, and I watch as i grow from a small child, all over again.
Being the proud parent that I am, I get many compliments on what a good job I am doing. Not because they actually know about me and my sons relationship, but because I am actually there for my kid. Now to me this is ridiculous. Just because i am there doing what a father is supposed to be doing, doesn't make me a great parent. Everyday i feel like I don't have any idea about what I should be doing as a father. I mean of course I feed my son and make sure he gets everything he needs. I see him almost everyday. I do a lot with him. But even that doesn't give any outsider the clairvoyance to know that Im a good parent. I have questions about parenting like everyone else does. "why wont my son eat vegetables?" "Why wont he go to the potty on time?" Etc etc...
I guess what I am trying to say here is, when did our view of a good black father get so low as to say any man who is actually in his sons life is a good parent? I mean thats crazy. Just cause someone is in his child's life doesn't make him a good father. I know several dudes who think its kool to blow weed smoke in there 5 year olds face to try and give them a contact high. (Well actually I only know one dude that did that.) I mean there are guys who are in there kids life but show their children nothing positive. They are not good role models and probably never will be. So please ladies. don't comment on how well Im doing as a father unless you know me well. I mean I know there are a lot of guys who don't take care or stay in the lives of their children, and thats a horrible thing. But, that has nothing to do with how all the rest of us fathers, who are there for their children , raise our kids.
When you call me a good father it makes me think that your view of black men on a whole is pretty low and thats not a good thing. I am just doing what a father should be doing, which is the best I can do. I might not be the best father in the world, or maybe I am the best. You will never know unless you enter my life and follow me and my son into his adulthood. Think about that next time you tell a guy what a good Baby Daddy he is. I mean I love the compliments ladies, but still ... In reality, you have no idea what kind of parent i am.
Being the proud parent that I am, I get many compliments on what a good job I am doing. Not because they actually know about me and my sons relationship, but because I am actually there for my kid. Now to me this is ridiculous. Just because i am there doing what a father is supposed to be doing, doesn't make me a great parent. Everyday i feel like I don't have any idea about what I should be doing as a father. I mean of course I feed my son and make sure he gets everything he needs. I see him almost everyday. I do a lot with him. But even that doesn't give any outsider the clairvoyance to know that Im a good parent. I have questions about parenting like everyone else does. "why wont my son eat vegetables?" "Why wont he go to the potty on time?" Etc etc...
I guess what I am trying to say here is, when did our view of a good black father get so low as to say any man who is actually in his sons life is a good parent? I mean thats crazy. Just cause someone is in his child's life doesn't make him a good father. I know several dudes who think its kool to blow weed smoke in there 5 year olds face to try and give them a contact high. (Well actually I only know one dude that did that.) I mean there are guys who are in there kids life but show their children nothing positive. They are not good role models and probably never will be. So please ladies. don't comment on how well Im doing as a father unless you know me well. I mean I know there are a lot of guys who don't take care or stay in the lives of their children, and thats a horrible thing. But, that has nothing to do with how all the rest of us fathers, who are there for their children , raise our kids.
When you call me a good father it makes me think that your view of black men on a whole is pretty low and thats not a good thing. I am just doing what a father should be doing, which is the best I can do. I might not be the best father in the world, or maybe I am the best. You will never know unless you enter my life and follow me and my son into his adulthood. Think about that next time you tell a guy what a good Baby Daddy he is. I mean I love the compliments ladies, but still ... In reality, you have no idea what kind of parent i am.
HOW SHALLOW ARE YOU?
WOULD YOU STILL LIKE ME?
Would you still like me if I had no money, no job, no success, but a whole shyt load of potential!? Would you still like me if I didnt have nice clothes, a car, or a place to stay? What if I was the nicest guy on the planet but didnt have a thing to offer but my love, knowledge, and respect? Would you still like me then? Would you rather a dude have made it already? Imagine I have success, lots of cash, clothes and a big ass house now.... I bet you would love me then right? But would I love you back? See I got all those things by myself without you! You didnt help me set my plan, nuture me through the hard times, nothing! So why would I believe you like me for anything other than my material posessions? If we get together and I loose all of that would you still want me!?
HOW SHALLOW ARE YOU!?
Would you still like me if I had no money, no job, no success, but a whole shyt load of potential!? Would you still like me if I didnt have nice clothes, a car, or a place to stay? What if I was the nicest guy on the planet but didnt have a thing to offer but my love, knowledge, and respect? Would you still like me then? Would you rather a dude have made it already? Imagine I have success, lots of cash, clothes and a big ass house now.... I bet you would love me then right? But would I love you back? See I got all those things by myself without you! You didnt help me set my plan, nuture me through the hard times, nothing! So why would I believe you like me for anything other than my material posessions? If we get together and I loose all of that would you still want me!?
HOW SHALLOW ARE YOU!?
Saturday, December 16, 2006
Will Hip Hop Ever grow up!?
Last night I was up watching the ceiling, thinking about the age of most of todays emcees. I figure that most of them are about 30 years old on average. It almost scared me when I began to dig deeper on it. These guys are still acting like adolescents at age 30!? It put my mind into overdrive. These are the people who are influencing future generations of black males. Many of todays black boys already have a problem making the transition into manhood. They have to deal with growing up in homes that may have been lacking in the "Father" department. Single mothers, do what they can to raise upstanding individuals, but it may prove extremely difficult in todays society. I mean a mother can do a lot of things, but she will never be able to show her son what a man "really" is. She can try and tell him how to be a man, but there is nothing like seeing it with your own eyes.
Too many of todays Black and Latino boys are learning to be men from men who never actually learned to be men. I mean look at what these rappers put in their lyrics.
They talk about having multiple women, instead of finding a wife. Its never kool to dress like an adult. Working is for suckas. Its kool to be immature and plays games. Words are no longer ignored, they are something to fight over. Violence and killing is looked at as kool.
There are so many other things these guys do that are very immature and irresponsible. These are our children's male role models. I think we ought to demand more of them, personally. What do you think!?
Too many of todays Black and Latino boys are learning to be men from men who never actually learned to be men. I mean look at what these rappers put in their lyrics.
They talk about having multiple women, instead of finding a wife. Its never kool to dress like an adult. Working is for suckas. Its kool to be immature and plays games. Words are no longer ignored, they are something to fight over. Violence and killing is looked at as kool.
There are so many other things these guys do that are very immature and irresponsible. These are our children's male role models. I think we ought to demand more of them, personally. What do you think!?
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
RELIGION: I dont believe God would want us separated ...
Recently I was asked about my religious beliefs. I seem to have to answer this question so much that i figured I would post the response i gave in order to not have to go through the trouble of writing this again. I know so many of you will begin to think negatively about some of what I have written but its kool. That just reinforces why I don’t believe in religion… Its seems to stir up controversy. All throughout history it has been an excuse for wars and many unnecessary deaths. It seems to separate us. Do any of you really believe that that is what God would want? Maybe people are just taking the writings in holy books to literally. Maybe we just don’t understand them at all. Why would a holy book be so misinterpreted if God wanted us to understand? And, wouldn’t a perfect God have a perfect Holy book, that even a child could understand? I don’t know the answer to these questions but I do know that I am a reader and the holy books that i have read aren’t for low level readers. You have to really be a good reader to understand many of these books. And even then you need someone who has training(minister, pastor, imam, or otherwise) to help you through understanding…Anyway… Here is what I wrote my friend….
THE LETTER:
About my religion… Thats a subject that is very touchy in N.C. it seems. Ive actually had extremely good relationships go sour due to religious differences. Its crazy, to me that there are so many religions in the world. A good handful of them, I have studied… When I was younger I was into studying religions. I went to different churches, to mosques, and even went to visit Hebrew school with a friend of mine. I had a genuine interest. I wanted to know which religion was best for me. I felt the need to get close to god and also fit in with so many of my religious friends. Unfortunately I didn’t find god in any of those places of worship. I found god within myself and within everything around me. See to me no man written book can bring me closer to god. For me god is within all of the beautiful things around me. Everything positive. So when I speak to my friends I feel gods presence. When I speak to my son, whenever I speak to anyone I feel that presence. When I breathe I feel that same presence. God is always a presence that I feel. I know that god is real, but I dont believe that any human being could ever understand God. I feel like all the books are written by men who tried to explain the inexplicable. Trying to make sense of something that they could never understand. I mean I have read most of the bible. Ive read a lot of the Koran. Both books are just so obviously man written that its scary. They advocate violence, murder, cruelty to children, to women, etc, etc. The bible in particular has a few spots where its contradicts itself…. I guess I am getting off the subject a bit… But i wanted to explain why i have come to my conclusions. I am not religious, because I feel that it separates people. To me god would never want us to be separate as people. God wouldn’t want us to waste time worshiping but instead loving all the beautiful things he has put on this earth for us…Because to me, to love everything god has put on this earth for us, to love one another, is the ultimate form of respect you could pay to god. So to make god happy I just live my life as best as possible, and treat everyone with love and respect. Now any religious person would say i was crazy, but to me if you think about it most religious people were born into their religions and have never studied anything else. I come from a different background. I have studied multiple religions. Maybe I look at it too scientifically or something. I don’t know. What I do know is how to read, and the Holy books that I have read are just so suspect to me. They just have written all over them the fact that they are man written. I mean its just too obvious. The god that i know and love would never be a part of some of the murderous, and cruel things that happen in some of those books… I don’t know… Its just how I feel. Its how I look at it. I know that I will catch a lot of flack for my beliefs but who doesn’t?
THE LETTER:
About my religion… Thats a subject that is very touchy in N.C. it seems. Ive actually had extremely good relationships go sour due to religious differences. Its crazy, to me that there are so many religions in the world. A good handful of them, I have studied… When I was younger I was into studying religions. I went to different churches, to mosques, and even went to visit Hebrew school with a friend of mine. I had a genuine interest. I wanted to know which religion was best for me. I felt the need to get close to god and also fit in with so many of my religious friends. Unfortunately I didn’t find god in any of those places of worship. I found god within myself and within everything around me. See to me no man written book can bring me closer to god. For me god is within all of the beautiful things around me. Everything positive. So when I speak to my friends I feel gods presence. When I speak to my son, whenever I speak to anyone I feel that presence. When I breathe I feel that same presence. God is always a presence that I feel. I know that god is real, but I dont believe that any human being could ever understand God. I feel like all the books are written by men who tried to explain the inexplicable. Trying to make sense of something that they could never understand. I mean I have read most of the bible. Ive read a lot of the Koran. Both books are just so obviously man written that its scary. They advocate violence, murder, cruelty to children, to women, etc, etc. The bible in particular has a few spots where its contradicts itself…. I guess I am getting off the subject a bit… But i wanted to explain why i have come to my conclusions. I am not religious, because I feel that it separates people. To me god would never want us to be separate as people. God wouldn’t want us to waste time worshiping but instead loving all the beautiful things he has put on this earth for us…Because to me, to love everything god has put on this earth for us, to love one another, is the ultimate form of respect you could pay to god. So to make god happy I just live my life as best as possible, and treat everyone with love and respect. Now any religious person would say i was crazy, but to me if you think about it most religious people were born into their religions and have never studied anything else. I come from a different background. I have studied multiple religions. Maybe I look at it too scientifically or something. I don’t know. What I do know is how to read, and the Holy books that I have read are just so suspect to me. They just have written all over them the fact that they are man written. I mean its just too obvious. The god that i know and love would never be a part of some of the murderous, and cruel things that happen in some of those books… I don’t know… Its just how I feel. Its how I look at it. I know that I will catch a lot of flack for my beliefs but who doesn’t?
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